I learned a lot from this man and from his marriage. My former Mother-in-law looked after him with devotion and without complaint. It's what you do when you love somebody, she said. They operated as a unit. It's the way a couple should be.
What I learned: Do others no harm. Be nice. Be grateful. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Look after each other. Even if everyone is telling you things are fine and you know in your heart they're not - take action. Stick together. BE together. Do what's best for each other and not just yourself.
Rest in peace, Ell. I'll miss you.